How ARE you? or How are YOU? or, in the words of Joey from Friends, ‘How you doin?’
I bet you ask or answer this question at least once a day. It’s sort of a standard greeting these days. And, the usual answer (unless it’s a good friend who will tell the truth) is ‘fine’.
I was in a coffee shop yesterday morning, discussing the merits of a chocolate muffin versus a raspberry/almond flavoured one with a complete stranger. This lady took great pleasure in making her decision – (Raspberry and Almond) – to go with her Chai Latte. It was, she said her treat of the day and one she always looked forward to.
The Barista asked how she was, and with a beaming smile she said, ‘fan-tas-tic, I’m always fantastic’!!
This got me thinking, bearing in mind I know nothing about this lady, maybe the fact that she didn’t deny herself her daily treat kept her happy and indeed ‘fan-tas-tic’.
How many times have you said ‘No! I shouldn’t’ to something? I don’t mean a second glass of wine if you’re driving, or a second or third slice of cake when you have a holiday coming with the hope of comfortably wearing a bikini, but the temptation of a delicious ice-cream when you’re on holiday or the choice of buying the baby blue cashmere sweater in favour the navy blue one.
When I was a B.A. stewardess about 25 years ago, I remember often saying ‘sorry I can’t’ as I was working to pay my mortgage. In the 80’s we had small mortgages by todays standards, but massive interest rates. Looking back, I probably could have said yes to a few more things. Skiing in California? A safari in Africa? Don’t get me wrong, I had the most amazing time and enjoyed plenty of trips and did plenty of shopping. But perhaps I could have not denied myself as much, And I bet I would have still paid my bills!
So, perhaps we should try to enjoy ourselves a little more, not always take the lesser option or deny ourselves small pleasures. We should have a glass of fizz with afternoon tea if we want, or buy an eagerly awaited book in hardback rather than waiting for it to come out in paperback. It doesn’t mean having what you want regardless of other commitments, but perhaps the odd treat is good for the soul. You just never know what’s around the corner.
And, if anyone asks how we are, perhaps we should try to change our standard reply from ‘fine’ to ‘fan-tas-tic’.
Have a lovely day,